Emotional health refers to the meaning that how a child can face and cope up with uncomfortable emotions in a constructive manner. If a child is suffering from some negativity or fearing from something and in that instance, someone comes to him and asks him, honey! What happened to you what’s a problem with you then all of a sudden the child’s all negativities bubble out and he starts feeling relax and developing peace of mind. Considering the importance of understanding emotional health, here we are going to share some useful tips on how to raise emotionally healthy children.
As an adult, we give time and make space to listen to our child’s emotions. It seems like all their problems can fix it out. In our society we blame parents for what they did and did not do, parents always do best for their children for what they have, usually, parents repeat the same behavior and practice to which was being applied to them or sometimes they swing away far opposite to them.
As we give more importance to IQ rather than EQ. Mental health plays a pivotal role to keep a child emotionally healthy. Every 1 out of 8 is feeling anxiety and every 1 out of 10 is having depression.
The issue lies in lacking of emotional literacy which is not being taught in our educational system. if we were told that childhood defines adult mental health then we start to take care of our child’s soul.
There are three basic emotional behaviors which identify a child’s phases of the psyche, such as; Repression, Aggression, and Expression.
In repression, the child suppresses his negativity and shutdown all feelings silently and is told to stop cry which brings acrimony and isolation, and the child starts havoc all resisting when he turns into an adult because memories stay there, and those memories scroll back in the mind which causes egregious behavior.
Aggression is the next emotional disorder which is a prerequisite of repression by shutting down the rage, fear, and negativity and child is finding a way how to castigate those emotions and then he suffers from aggression and he adopts threatening behavior to encounter those bubbles of rage.
In this phase, the child gets space for expressing his feelings of anger, aggression, rage, sympathy, love, and care. In expression, the child should be welcome to express all his feelings and problem fixing elements. If we create harmony, a safe place to unpack their all feelings and fix problems, all these bring incredibly powerful emotional results.
If we actually support parents to unpack their emotional bag on their child’s shoulder then your child may able to share his emotions with you to shrug off all his emotional amalgam .by listening compassionately with empathy to our child’s emotions and feelings we may able to teach them how to show kindness and respect to others. If we replace harsh discipline and punishment with compassionate listening plus loving limits and boundaries then we may completely enervate healthy emotions in our children.
In place of education and home, we should foster a free learning environment, free of judgments and criticism, kind and respect love and celebration cause neurological operations to fully functioning and capacity of learning and growth increases in a child.
In a judgmental-free environment, children get the opportunity of life skills critical thinking, love of failure to explore more options to become compassionate citizens of earth. We believe if we support the healthy emotional wellbeing of our children then learning becomes effortless and infinite. The aim of education is around us and within us, if we prioritize inner self, then we would be able to understand the world around us.
These are the best ways to raise emotionally healthy children. See, how different the world could be if we place connection, heart, and compassionate listening in every relation.
By Maria Farrukh